Have you ever been afraid of launching out and doing something you love to do? Have you ever been paralyzed by the “what-if’s” and the “maybe’s?” Sometimes our past personal failures haunt us, our present situation perplexes us, and the future un-answered questions frighten us. If you are honest you are somewhere in between 3 of these places. I have been there…a lot.
I need to fight fear in many ways and every day.
But I have learned that fear can be fought in 2 ways. In community and in conversation. Most of us in business or pursuing a new venture get stuck in our own heads and our own spaces. It seems nobody understands us and we don’t have a sounding board to bounce stuff off of people. We don’t know where to start and we don’t know where to go. It can be frustrating and draining. We think, “nobody understands,” and “I’m the only one going through this!” We can get so discouraged that we let our dreams die and we just give up and settle for “the hand that’s been dealt us,” like a bad take out order that got messed up and you don’t have time to return it because you’re running late…so you just “eat it!”
“Fear can be fought in 2 ways…
community and conversation.”
You don’t have to just “eat it,” you can fight it! You need to be in “community.” People in Churches, support groups, recovery programs, and vocational industries all know this. We need others to help us and we can help others get to where they are going. it might be a simple tip, a resource, or a special word of encouragement. We need to talk to somebody who isn’t there to “sell us something,” but to serve us, so we can serve others. In those communities you can have a “conversation.” You can ask for advice, seek counsel, listen to other perspectives, and learn and grow. None of us have all of the “tools,” but all of us have some of them, and we can build each other up with them.
I have been blessed to have many close friends who are mentors, life coaches, and business owners who have helped me get further along in my business, and I joyfully have been able to serve them in the same way. But I’ve recently discovered a community of gifted and generous business owners who are having a conversation that I’ve found in my brief interaction with them, both refreshing and empowering.
They are called SCORE. Their website describes them as a “nonprofit association dedicated to educating entrepreneurs and helping small businesses start, grow, and succeed nationwide. SCORE is a resource partner with the U.S. Small Business Administration (SBA), and has been mentoring small business owners for more than forty years. Founded in 1964, SCORE is headquartered in Herndon, VA and has 364 chapters throughout the United States and its territories, with over 13,000 volunteers nationwide.
The also have great resources and a great Blog full of helpful and FREE information. I’m only into my 3rd class but with great instructors and mentors like Tamara MacDuff, I am receiving a full plate of helpful and critical business insights that I would never have “drifted into.” I hope to be able to help others along their way also.
There is an old Proverb that says, “A wise person will hear and increase learning, And a person of understanding will attain wise counsel,”Proverbs 1:5. Once you decide to stop learning, you stop growing. When you entrench yourself in your own perspectives and plans, you will miss out on a community and a conversation you need more than you realize! When you let others speak into your life, even when it is hard to hear, you will always be the better for it.
If you truly want to “fight fear,” find a community and have a conversation that will give you the wind you’ll need to launch out and sail on successfully. There never will be smooth sailing, but having others on board with you makes all the difference in the world!
How have you fought fear? Let us know…
©2015 Pat Tharp